add save cache model api in fleet& add slots shuffle in dataset module & add metric op to calculate ctr related metrics (#18871)

* add ctr related metric layer test=develop

* add save cache and slots shuffle test=develop

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* change SlotsShuffle input to std::strinf for generality

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* change non-const reference to pointer

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* add return ins num in ctr metric op

* change dtype to float in metric_op.py

* fix error test=develop

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* fix API spec

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* add UT test=develop

* support filelist size < trainer num
* pull dense when stop, to make sure local dense params are same as pserver, so save paddle model will save dense model same as pserver
*  enable QueueDataset train same filelist for serveral times

（1）support patch data （merge slots of instances of same line id, modify dense layer which
changes its size）
（2）add fleet load_one_table interface, support load from paddle model and load from pslib model
（3）fix push sparse bug which cause push sparse cost more time（about 10% in my testcase）
（4）when some slots are not in one of your network (join/update, etc.)，data feed、collect label info、push/pull sparse will skip these slots， instead of throw error.
（5）add more debug info in TrainFilesWithProfiler

* remove async executor and add data_feed.proto to the deps of train demo

(1) use channel instead of vector/BlockingQueue in Dataset，to keep same with existing implementation, and make code more readable and flexible (dataset single output channel or multi output channel). one previous memory out of limit problem is cause by not release memory after training.
(2) add Record because MultiSlotType costs too much memory (80B)，fix memory out of limit problem.
(3) add Channel, Archive in paddle/fluid/framework
(4) change dataset from shared_ptr to unique_ptr in pybind
(5) move create/destroy readers from trainer to dataset
(6) move shuffle from datafeed to dataset. dataset holds memory, datafeed is only for load data and feed data to network.
(7) fix thread num bug of Dataset when filelist size < thread num
(8) support set_queue_num in InMemoryDataset

* add save/load model, shrink table, cvm, config file & fix pull dense bug
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* fix global shuffle bug, fix pull dense bug, fix release memeory bug, fix shrink error
add client flush, add get data size
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix code style
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* fix code style & modify pslib cmake
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* fix error of _role_maker
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix windows compile error of fleet
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* fix global shuffle bug

* add comment
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* update pslib.cmake
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* fix fill sparse bug
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* fix push sparse bug
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