* update memory_optimize pass

* add fused_multi_transformer_encoder/decoder pass, run GPT-3 success

* multithread_memory_optimize

* modify logic

* test=allcase

* test=document_fix

* use iwyu clean include second time, test=develop

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

FIx C++ inference BUG: When open memory optim and enable trt subgraph at the same time, there is a bug (#19969)

* fix memory optimization type
test=develop

* 1. fix BUG: open trt and memory optim will trigger bug.
2. Clean memory optim bug.
test=develop

test=develop

* fix mask rcnn bug:
1. affine channel fuse (diff)
2. condition block op (memory leak)
3. merge lod tensor op (diff)
4. memroy optim (diff)
test=develop

* fix ci aboud PADDLE_ENFOCE
fix merge lod infer op ut
test=develop

* Fix Mask rcnn predictor
    1. refine memory optim algorithm to support the model with the block op.
    2. output diff : modify the affine channel fuse
    3. add condition_block_infer op
add interface for setting trt calib table dir
test=develop

* add the missing files.
test=develop

* fix: when use the load model from memory mode, the RAM occupy is high

test=develop

* ligth mem reuse
test=develop

* fix cpplint
test=develop

test=develop

size_t is an unsigned integer, with a conversion rank
 larger than int, therefore in the following expression
 the int value was promoted to size_t, making it a
 subtraction of unsigned values. The result of such
 a subtraction is also an unsigned value.