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* add set_not_owned function for graph

* add scope set. test=develop

* add scope_ptr enforce not null before setting.test=develop

* speedup gc and inplace softmax_with_cross_entropy_grad
test=develop

* refine models gpu mem
Merge skip vars and warning messages of mem opt
remove relu mem opt
test=develop

* follow comments
test=develop

test=develop