* [XPUPS]add support for kunlun2 (#40985)


[XPUPS]add support for kunlun2
Co-authored-by: NWorgenZhang <frank08081993@gmail.com>

* [XPUPS]fix hashtable_kernel.kps (#41790)

* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix hashtable_kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop
Co-authored-by: NWorgenZhang <frank08081993@gmail.com>

* [XPUPS]modify xpu_kp.cmake with HETERPS&PSLIB (#41760)

* modify xpu_kp.cmake with HETERPS&PSLIB

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop
Co-authored-by: NWorgenZhang <frank08081993@gmail.com>

add dynamic mf size api

* psgpu:edit cuda remote_streams; test=develop

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* add topo aware

* resource.h

* topo aware

* format

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
Co-authored-by: Nyaoxuefeng6 <yaoxuefeng@baidu.com>